We tried to make it work as best we could, but ultimately the distance worked against us.As I watched my own relationship and the long-distance relationships of my friends dissolve around me, I vowed never to embark on a nightmare like that ever again.Say you meet a handsome stranger one night in the corner of a dark bar.He’s visiting from somewhere else, but something clicks and all of a sudden it’s on.If plane tickets are involved, talk about splitting the cost, and make sure that you’re not the one shelling out 0 every month to go somewhere for a harried, busy weekend. Relationships are hard because all of a sudden you have to incorporate someone else’ life into your own.If you’re an independent person by nature, this intrusion can be awkward.
I don’t know, it’s something about seeing “sexting with my boo” in your mental day planner that saps all the excitement out of it. He said something weird to you that you misheard while looking for your shoes and rushing out the door? Maybe you’ve been harboring quiet resentment over the way your partner sheds all of their clothing like a snake does its skin on the way to bed.If you find yourself in a possible adult LDR, here are some nuggets of wisdom she passed on: 1. Communication is crucial in any relationship, from your best friend to the people at the laundromat, but in a long-distance relationship clear and constant communication is essential.Think of all the times anything you say is misinterpreted or taken out of context.In the dark ages before texting and sexting and the ease of constant communication afforded to us by our personal devices, I spent a lot of time on the phone and on Instant Messenger, smoothing over hurt feelings or picking fights.As in so many situations at this age, immaturity won out over reason.
It’s best to happen upon these situations organically — maybe after you’ve slipped out of a party early, you’ve had a couple of glasses of champagne, and you really, really miss him. Clean passive-aggressively while making pointed comments under your breath, then fight about it!